So you haven’t really thought of your ex in three weeks. Your friends have started calling you again because your not drowning them with details of how miserable you have been since the break-up and how the sight of your neighbor’s cat lazing in the sun made you think of how cute ‘he’ looked in his sleep, anymore. And you’re even secretly thinking of getting back into the dating scene.
But you still have just about an ounce of doubt whether you’re ready for a new relationship. Well try asking yourself these questions before you invest in a new man:
1) Are you ready to handle the problems and responsibilities of a NEW relationship? You know it’s not going to be a bed of roses JUST because you’re with a new guy.
2) Do you have time to invest in a new relationship? Having a new beau is really glamorous with all the new and exciting things you get to do, not to mention being the centre of attention in your circle of friends (they want ALL the details!). But think about it. Do you feel you have regained the energy to keep it up once the euphoria has subsided?
3) Are you REALLY over your last relationship? Lingering feelings will create problems because you’ll always end up comparing the two partners and relationships.
4) What have you learnt about yourself from previous relationships? Maybe you don’t like a certain type of person but keep falling for exactly that sort. Perhaps you always get conflicted between giving time to your work, your friends and to your guy. This time around, go into it with your priorities all figured out.
Being in a relationship is great. You have a sense of purpose, a sense of belonging. But if you don’t get what you want out of them, the same ties can strangle you and make you fell suffocated, sometimes even making you feel unwanted and unloved, taking a toll on your self-image and self worth.
Don’t let a little loneliness scare you into rushing things with a new guy. After all getting a great guy is only worth it if you’re relaxed enough to enjoy it.
Via: love-lectures
