Why? Why? Why? We can repeat this one to ourselves over and over and over but we can never come up with a convincing enough answer.
Why do men lie?
Carolyn Bushong, a Denver-based licensed therapist (had to be a shrink), says:
Men often lie to us or don’t share their real feelings with us because:
1) They want to protect us from their bad behavior or their negative feelings about us. They don’t say anything or they tell us what they think we want to hear because they don’t want to hurt us by what they say or do.
2) Men are afraid of women. They are afraid to use the emotional language because they don’t know the “emotional game” that women play. They’ve learned that sharing feelings will more often than not get them in trouble. They are afraid we will think them weak or insecure.
3) They are often not emotionally in touch with what they are really feeling. They are often thinking logically or defensively.
4) Men are not taught that discussing a relationship can often bring solutions to problem. So they often believe that any issue they have with you is probably a reason to just end the relationship, so they avoid bringing it up.
So how do you keep your man from lying to you?
1) Don’t put your man in a no-win situation, like getting mad if he says something you don’t like, yet also getting mad when he won’t answer the question or placates you. Don’t punish him when you don’t get the answer you want.
2) Learn to remind him that you want the truth before you ask him a question.
3) If you feel he’s lying to you, try and guess what he might be feeling and suggest a way to fix it.
Hmmm... that cleared up a lot of the mess in your head didn’t it? So go on give your man a little benefit of doubt and a lot of love, and trust me you’ll never need to read this one again!!
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