Recent study postulates that marriage is going out of fashion and women are looking forward to remain single. The number of ’single’ women includes divorcees, widows and those who may be planning to marry, as well as those who never have.
In the early Seventies, 85 % of women were married by the time they were 30, now, fewer that one woman in three is married by that age.
However, Chloe Rhodes married at 25 says that marriage has its own advantages provided one gets the kind of guy which actually understands you and does not offer his tyrannical attitude.
She further said that she did not have to compromise for her freedom in exchange for a ring on her finger neither did she get married for security or a sign of commitment, she was already in possession of those things before.
She accepted that there are institutions that are still bastions of male privilege, but asserted that marriage isn’t one of them. And exemplified marriage as a celebration of love between two people and a declaration of devotion to each other.
Counter view:
Another woman, Julia Stephenson who got married at the age of 24 but presently is single stated that she went ahead in the bond of marriage because she considered it a guarantee of security, commitment and unconditional love.
However, she experienced completely different scenario, after marriage, she along with her husband drifted to the countryside where most of her time was consumed in the kitchen preparing lavish feasts for his ‘golfing cronies and their gym-honed wives’.
She is of the view that girls must wait until they are very old before they settle down, so they are sure of what they want. ‘After all, who in their right mind wants security in their twenties? This is a time for feckless fun, binge drinking and unsuitable boyfriends.’
She added that she is relishing each moment of her freedom after getting divorce from her husband. In fact, she has decided to write novels, articles and would like to pursue her environmental interests.
Bottom line:
Personally, I feel that marriage is not about age, it is all about mental framework. Maybe a girl is mentally prepared for taking such a huge responsibility at the age of twenty-five but there are some women who are not really prepared until the age of thirty or so.
In addition, one has to keep in mind that no one is perfect in here. We all have certain flaws in ourselves, so instead of blaming others and highlighting their shortcomings won’t it be plausible enough to sit down and have an open discussion over the matter after all, the person is same whom you have selected to be your life partner.
Whether marriage is a boon or a bane is all the outcome of our actions. And the most important thing, there shouldn’t be any kind of ego involved in this relationship. It acts as a slow poison and attacks the very foundation of this everlasting relationship.
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